Live-in or Live-out Nanny/Family Assistant – Sag Harbor

Overview

A high-functioning family of five with three school-aged children (ages 7, 6, and 4) is seeking an experienced and proactive Nanny/Family Assistant to support their busy dual-career household. This role can be live-in or live-out and is ideal for a professional who is warm, organized, discreet, and energized by both childcare and household logistics.

The family is looking for someone with a calm, nurturing presence who connects well with children of varying personalities and ages. The position blends hands-on childcare with full household coordination, serving as a key support in keeping the home running smoothly.

The schedule is approximately 40 hours per week with a flexible structure. Key coverage times include mornings (7:00–9:00 AM) to assist with school routines and afternoons through bedtime (typically until 8:00 PM). The family is open to structuring the schedule collaboratively, including split shifts or alternating schedules such as 7:00 AM–5:00 PM or 12:00 PM–8:00 PM.

Responsibilities

Household Management

• Oversee daily household operations, including vendor coordination, maintenance scheduling, supply ordering, and system management across multiple floors
• Manage the household calendar, family schedules, and appointment coordination
• Coordinate travel logistics, including transportation, packing lists, school trips, and family travel planning
• Handle grocery ordering, pantry management, and household inventory (gluten-free diet with nut restrictions)
• Liaise with building staff, contractors, and service providers
• Assist with administrative tasks and special projects as needed

Childcare & Family Support

• Provide reliable, engaged care for three children, including school pickup, after-school activities, homework support, dinner, and bedtime routines
• Serve as the main point of contact for au pairs, including scheduling, coverage coordination, and maintaining consistency
• Plan activities, playdates, and weekend outings
• Manage school-related communication, forms, and follow-up
• Travel with the family as needed, including during school breaks and summer

Errands & Personal Support

• Run household and personal errands, including dry cleaning, pharmacy runs, gift sourcing, and returns
• Assist with event preparation, hosting, and light entertaining support
• Support special projects and family initiatives as they arise

Requirements

• Minimum of 5+ years of experience in a private household or similar family assistant/house manager role
• Warm, calm, and confident working with children of different ages and personalities
• Highly organized, proactive, and composed under pressure
• Valid driver’s license and comfort navigating New York City logistics
• Willingness to travel domestically and internationally
• Strong sense of discretion and professionalism
• Prior experience working with three children in a similar setting

Compensation and Benefits

• $100,000–$110,000 annually, depending on experience